When we think of being groomed, we general think of older men doing it to young people. This story is how I was groomed. I met this famous ELT person at a conference. He immediately started showing an interest in me. As far as I knew, he was a married man and definitely not someone I would be interested in. At the time I was going through a very difficult time in my life and was feeing very vulnerable. He somehow found this out and decided to use it to his advantage. He would email me several times a day and visit me several times a month. He would tell me all sorts of things about his life and how unhappy he was. He would tell me how special I was to him and that he’d never met anyone like me. This went on for about eight months and I was starting to fall under his charms until someone told me that he did this to a lot of women, that as well as being married, he had a girlfriend too. But that wasn’t enough for him, that he was always after women at public events. I felt like I had had a lucky escape but I can’t help thinking about all the women that he did manipulate this way.